A dad has left people divided after he revealed that he threw out his daughter’s dinner because she was in a bad mood and made a rude remark.
Taking to Reddit, the 44-year-old single dad explained that he is a father to Audrey, 16, and Emily, 12.
Even though he has ‘great relationship’ with his children, he said that Audrey ‘can sometimes be rude and demeaning, saying cruel things casually when she’s displeased about something or in a bad mood.’
The father also explained that Emily looks up to her big sister, “often mimicking her behavior which obviously worries me.”
He said that he made a ‘nice Sunday dinner’ but things went sour when his eldest suddenly stormed downstairs.
“She was being a downer whereas Emily and I were cheerful,” he wrote.
“I asked her to improve her mood please instead of ruining the dinner, she turned to me and unleashed her anger.”
The dad-of-two went on: “To quote some of her elegant words ‘Can you stop lecturing for once, you’re annoying as f*** and seriously you’re the one who ruins everything.’”
The frustrated dad said he “stood up, took her plate, and dumped it in the trashcan.”
He then told Audrey that she should start providing for herself as she didn’t want to show him ‘basic respect.’
“She said she’ll make cereal and maybe I was an a**hole, I said no that’s my milk and she should get a job to get her own groceries. I don’t feel like I yelled at her, I felt I spoke calmly but when she realized I was being serious, she got upset and started crying and ran to her room.”
The father said they have not talked since and that both of his daughters are mad at him, with Emily telling him that he ‘acted like a huge jerk.’
Reddit users were left divided, with many slamming the dad for his behavior.
One person wrote: “never thought to ask his daughter why she was in a bad mood. Just told her to fix it then dumped her food out when she didn’t keep sweet for him. YTA.”
Another said: “It is pretty clear where you went wrong as well: ‘I asked her to improve her mood please instead of ruining the dinner.’ If someone is in a bad mood asking them to not be in a bad mood and accusing them of ruining something is probably not the right approach.”
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There was no need for her foul language, she deserved to go without. BUT dont tell her to buy her own food !
Nah you’re wrong. She didn’t deserve to go without. Any food related punishment is abuse.
This happened to me when my 2 youngest were still at home….. the oldest was a finicky eater and the youngest followed suite….. one day I fixed them dinner and the oldest said’oh do we have to eat this?’then the youngest repeated what the older one said…. I said’ no you don’t’ and I opened the back door and grabbed the youngest ones plate and walked over to the back door and pitched plate and all out in to the backyard….. then went and got the oldest ones plate and walked over to the back door and pitched it out also…… then I told them they could find what they wanted for dinner and I ate my dinner and watched TV while they just sit there….. needless to say …. They never complained about dinner again…..
Good on you Dad that was disgusting behaviour by your daughter.I’m with you she’s old enough know better.Stand your ground. Maybe she needs to start cooking and she might appreciate what you do,
Good on you Dad Kids have no respect these days
I don’t believe that the Father’s behavior was much better than the Daughter’s. She could have been told to leave the table without the food being thrown away and saying the comments he did. I don’t agree with her behavior or her language but nothing was resolved with all three not talking.
As the Dad you needed to find out what was upsetting your daughter that she was in a bad mood. You totally ignored the obvious that she needed her fathers support. Instead you made it worse when you could have showed your daughter you loved her and supported her. Total fail on your part.
Damned if you do damned if you don’t! “you ruin everything” was a bit of a defense remark, she knew she was in a bad mood, and probably did not know why, However, its all part of living with each other, The father was also felt let down and was struggling, one of those days when they were both fed up, throwing the food in the trash can, could be corrected, whereas other reactions might not be , his support was to make her food she rejected it. pure and simple. He sounds like a supportive father to me. and she sounds like so many other young girls growing up, it was not a bad idea that she should learn some independent living skills it would take the pressure off of them both.
I am with you Dad. You have cooked with so much love and she did not appreciate it so well deserved what you did. No respect for parents nowadays I remembered I had to eat in silence whether I like it or not
It’s hard to know what is the right or wrong way but I do know that the daughter need not have used such disrespectful language to her father.
Her younger sister is going to think that is the way to behave.
Let her eat cereal every meal if she doesn’t like your cooking.
Kids have to have boundaries, they are security – to know you care enough to correct them.
I hope you all settle down soon.
NO child should be allowed to use that language toward their parent, when they are not being treated badly! Mine would have certainly gone without dinner THAT night. I would have asked them afterwards what their problem really was, but, how that child acted was not acceptable, and needed to be responded to the way her father responded with in the moment.