A woman has shared her frustration online after her partner told her that he would always love his first child more than their future children.
Taking to Netmums, the unnamed woman explained that she’s thinking of breaking up with the father-of-one after he told her that he’d always love his first born more than others that may follow.
“He justified this by saying that his child was the first that he had ever raised, and being that he had experienced so many firsts with him, it’s normal that it would be the case,” she wrote.
“Hearing what he said was truly hurtful and makes me question whether or not I should remain in such a relationship.”
She also said that she didn’t want her future children to deal with ‘favoritism’ even though he was a good partner who treated her ‘very well.’
“However, the possibility of what he said being a reality makes me hesitant to have children with him and thus I am considering breaking up,” she continued.
“I would really appreciate some unbiased counsel on this matter from anyone with similar experience (any perspective) on this.”
Many parents have replied to her post and encouraged her not to worry too much about her partner’s remarks.
“Trust me there is no difference between how much you love each child and he can’t possibly say that until you have another then he will say I didn’t think I could love another like my first but he will,” one parent commented.
“My partner said that about our second child when I was pregnant. He said he would love our first more but once the second one was born he loves them both the same,” another said.
A third added: “I think a lot of people have that worry that they won’t love any other children as much as the first. My ex did, my dad too apparently. I don’t think loving your children less or more is really an option.”
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Everyone has their first. But with children, love is love. Plus you don’t want to get rid of a quality, experienced partner simply because he did too good of a job being a parent.
The most important thing is, if you do have a child with him, don’t start looking for signs he doesn’t love your child.
Sometimes people don’t know how to express their emotions verbally. It won’t make him love any of his future children any less.