A bride has sparked a lengthy debate online after she revealed that she only served water at her wedding.
Taking to Reddit, the woman questioned her decision after her family and friends were left disappointed.
“My husband and I are getting married later this year. Each of our sides of the family are fairly big. It will be around 100-150 people total,” she wrote.
The woman continued: “My husband and I are paying for this all ourselves, as well as my grandma who said she doesn’t care one way or the other on this issue.”
She explained that they have decided to not have any alcohol served as they don’t drink.
“Nothing against people who do, it’s just not for us and we don’t want to. On top of that, we only really drink water. We rarely, if ever, drink soda so most of the time it’s only water with the occasional juice and milk. We don’t even drink coffee.”
The bride also explained that paying for food for all of their guests was already expensive enough and they did not want to spend more on alcohol.
“When family and friends found out they) got angry,” she continued.
“Some didn’t really care but some are really upset about it. Saying that I can just have an open bar so I don’t have to pay for drinks (we could, but still have to pay for the bartender and we just really don’t want to bother with alcohol there).”
Reddit users were quick to share their opinions, with one person writing: “No one is arguing with a dry wedding lots of people shouldn’t be around alcohol. But if you don’t tell me it is water only I’m leaving the reception and grabbing a 12 pack of Diet Pepsi and plopping it down on my table.”
Another wrote: “Your wedding your choice.”
A third said: “It’s cheap and tacky to only serve water. I would 100% be pregaming in the parking lot if I found out I couldn’t even get an iced tea or a soda.”
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I do think when the attendees find out there is no bar with alcohol or colas there will be less people attending or many will go out to the trunks of their car and fix themselves a drink with what they brought. And when some see some doing this they will follow.
That is so said . My nice got married 165 people it cost $ 151,000 5 open bars band cost $ 20,000 7 piece band. They had a rehersal dinner the night before 75 people at the BOAT YARD in FORT LAUDERDALE THAT COST $ 25,000 .After the wedding they had all kinds of champane 4 open bars outside we had lamp chops, crab cakes. shrimp, stone crabs, cheese , etc. THE WEDDING DIINER FOUR COURSES I HAD CAESARS SALAD, SOUP, FILET , DESERT. COFFEE, EXPRESSO., ETC.
It wouldn’t hurt my feeling to drink water. I wouldn’t go to a wedding where alcohol is served.
Each to their own she should of put no alcohol will be served but other non alcohol drinks would of been nice but I for one will not judge no body knows their finances
If that’s the route you are going to take you have to tell your guests in advance. OR at least offer a cash bar and inform them that it is available for purchase. We had an open bar for 6 hours (we paid) because we know many of our guests like to drink, and very often guests come to a wedding with a gift amount that covers dinner and drinks. My husband and I don’t drink at all, but we waited to have our wedding at a time where we could afford to throw a party where our families can enjoy a nice evening out.
I went to a 60th bday celebration, no alcohol, which is a rarity for our people, but it was the best celebration I ever attended, was so honest, no rambling speech makers, was perfect.
If your going to have a wedding and reception you should think about other people who are your guest because your the host of the event.What I did was give all my guest two drink tickets to be used for soda or alcohol.Both my husband and I felt that it wouldn’t be right to not consider the guests.
My fiancé and I don’t drink but our families and friends so we are going to put a tab and when that runs out then people will then pay for their own drinks but we will only cover beer and wine. I would have preferred no alcohol but you have to think about the guests too but luckily our parents are helping a lot with wedding costs.
The wedding isn’t for the quests. They are invited to join in and support the couple. If they can’t do that without alcohol, or boycott the wedding because no tea, coffee or soda, they should stay home. Be supportive and loving during the ceremony/reception and stop for a drink on the way home.
It’s your wedding and your decision as to having a dry reception. I beverage table could have offered a solution by serve yourself non-alcoholic beverages (punch, soda, flavored waters, ice tea, etc). They could have cut back on other expenses to cover the beverage station. The type of wedding could also be adjusted to bring down the cost.
Hopefully you didn’t find a gift table without gifts. A wedding is a time to celebrate and if you want a dry wedding then do so but it’s not much of a celebration with just water being served at these pretty tables set up with plates and no food. Looks ungrateful to me, omit renting a room and use the money spent to afford an outside picnic.